I’m 28 female and single/childless. I’m looking to get back into the dating scene after ending a long term relationship last year.
A lot of men in my preferred age range (like 26-35 ball park) have kids. Ive heard multiple different men say something along the lines of never being able to love anyone as much as they love their baby mama.. Does this feel true to you?
I know everyone has a past, myself included, but hearing this has kind of made me weary of getting involved with someone with kids.. I like kids and would be open to being a step-parent if things got serious. I would always WANT my parter to be on good terms with his ex, for the sake of the kids and coparenting.. I would never want to stand in the way of that. I would want a good relationship with the mom as well.. but at the same time it’s kinda intimidating. The idea that if he got back with his ex, the “picture would be complete”.. where does that leave me? I wouldn’t want to stand in the way of that but I also don’t want to subject myself to it.
I think I just have a hard time viewing this from anything other than the child’s perspective, since I was a kid of split parents.
I’d also be interested to hear what moms have to say about this type of thing!