My husband would always complain during the marriage that he feels unsupported, unseen and disrespected. He said he wants to argue with me daily because I’m always doing something to set him off but he holds back.
Through the years I’ve asked him:
-what did I do today to upset you, so I can gain some insight?
-how would you like to be supported/seen, what can I do to show support or make u feel seen?
-what is ur love language?
-where do you feel disrespected? How can I show you respect?
-what actions do you dislike that I do?
He would always answer the same, “stop putting me on the spot” or “I can’t think right now” or “I don’t have any examples”
Has anyone been in this position, where you’re just confused on what the other wants. I did google how to make someone feel seen/ supported and respected and would do them. They weren’t recognised. I couldn’t get what he wanted and neither could he tell me.