I fm 32 y.old married to my husband , been married 1 year and living together, long distance relationship of 10 years. Long distance cause i was studying medicine and couldnt move before to norway from Uk, right now im studying Norwegian and is stay home wife untill i get my license in norway .
I do the majority of house hold duties, shopping, cleaning and cooking everything that comes with it, i dont mind cause im not working right now , in my family im known to be a cleaning freak to the point of ocd , my husband also likes tidy and clean home but to the point where he wants it to look like no one is living there which we have had arguments about small stuff like once i study and work on my laptop my laptop and books are in the couch constantly . Now to the argument i love to cook and cook alot from scratch and clean as i go. But after im done cooking i like to eat my food hot and then clean the rest or sometimes do it later. So yesterday after i made breakfast omeletts i left some stuff in the kitchen and then we decided to go out so i showered and we left the house while leaving my husbands attitude changed and was cranky. And on the way back he goes btw we have to clean the house when we come home do the dishes. That made me understand thats why he was annoyed.
Today i got up and cleaned the bed and made breakfast and then after we ate fell asleep in the couch and asked if he can clean up , the only things in there was a pan and the plates we ate with. And once i wake up he goes on a rant about once food is done he would like the kitchen to be cleaned right away. He says he doesn’t care if me or him do it but it shouldn’t be messy. I got pissed and told him to stay out from the kitchen then cause on the occasion he does dishes and complaining like it was a big deal , im i overreacting? cause im cleaning and doing everything around the house 99% and understand he likes a clean and tidy home but sometimes i wont do everything right away.