Hello this may be long and complicated,
I (F29) love my boyfriend (M29) to bits but when he drinks he can be very careless, expecially when he drinks with very certain friends. My boyfriend has dyspraxia which does make him more forgetful etc, we have had incidents in the past with him losing his phone, wallet etc on nights out. His mum has spoken to me and said he has always been like this, and I do try to understand this is apart of the dyspraxia. Anyway, I won't make excuses for him.
We are from Ireland and he planned a stereotypical "lads holiday" – with pals of his that I wouldn't be that keen on. My boyfriend would be more sensitive then them and they honestly are an odd bunch together.
So they booked this a few months ago and in the meantime my boyfriend applied for jobs where I live. We were long distance and he decided he wanted to move to my town (we were 2.5 hours apart). He is due to start on the 11th of May. His holiday is over on the 6th of May and I was nominated for an award in work and the dinner/award ceremony is the 7th of May – so a lot happening the one week. He handed in his notice to his old job and his last day is meant to be May 9th (he decided to work the Saturday shift after my award ceremony as its great money for working a Saturday) and he moves up to me May 10th officially.
I got the dreaded phone call this afternoon "I lost my phone" – well my heart sank. He is flying Ryanair home but he booked a completely different flight home to his friends because its closer to where I live for my work event.
So now he is away with no phone, no boarding pass and no money – his bank card was on his phone because he lost his bank card too 🙄🙄
It's all so messy and I think not being able to talk to him is making my anxiety worse. Do I just assume he won't make it to the awards ceremony that means a lot to me? He was able to use his friends phone for 20 mins to give me a quick call, he asked for money and I said he could have €100 for now and to try and contact me again with what the story is. I revoluted his friend – the thing I'm worried about is I'm not even sure if these friends will probably help him either get a flight or find his phone etc.
Do I just keep assuming the worse case scenario? I am sick of always having to clean up his messes for him but I hate the thought of him being stranded by himself. We were heading in such a good direction and it all feels so messy now.