F(18) i went through a breakup 3 months ago and I’m still healing, it still hurts a bit but over a month ago i downloaded hinge and thought i want to get out there and meet people, go on dates and see how it goes. I met this guy M(19) and we went on a date which is a hobby we both share and we get on quite well, he is really nice. We both have similar values, he is my type, same music taste, he is a cool person. We have been on quite a few dates and then we kissed. We have seen each other for a month now. I wasn’t sure where it was going. I wasn’t sure if i was ready for a relationship. I kinda thought he wasn’t going to ask me to be official which i was chill with. But he did and my instinct was to say yes. So now we are together. But one thing i realised is that i don’t feel super excited or honeymoon phase like. Maybe the butterflies are lacking because my ex made me feel anxious and
I’m unsure if i am ready for a relationship. When we kiss it’s amazing, we definitely have chemistry and I’m really attracted to him. I enjoy my time with him and my nervous system feels calm with him, i can be myself with him. But when we aren’t together i feel more nonchalant about it. He hasn’t had a girlfriend before so he is slightly inexperienced and his replies have gotten slower and he didn’t call me yesterday when he said he would. I’m cutting him some slack because of his lack of experience though. He is lovely he pays for dates and makes time for me so he does care. I don’t really know what to do as i don’t want to hurt him. I’m also a bit isolated as i have 2 close friends and they are always busy so i see them a couple times a month which sucks so i feel a bit lonely. Is it possible i will develop feelings for him? Does anyone relate or have any advice? I felt really sad and alone last night as i missed my ex and since the new guy didn’t call i felt a bit disappointed.
TL:DR
An 18-year-old recently started dating a new guy 3 months after a breakup. They get along well, share interests, and she feels comfortable and attracted to him, but she doesn’t feel strong “honeymoon phase” excitement and is unsure about her feelings. She still misses her ex sometimes, feels a bit lonely, and is questioning whether her feelings for her new boyfriend will develop or if she’s ready for a relationship.