Good evening y’all,
Since my breakup in December and my return on the dating scene, I (32M) never go past the second date. We and the other girl meet, and even though the date went well, every time I’m hit with the same old “I have thought about this carefully…”where the person says that there is basically no feeling.
It could be fine, I happened to be the one not feeling it in the past, but recently it’s starting to take a serious toll on me. No later than a few hours ago, I received this kind of message, from someone I was really interested in.
Of course I appreciate her telling this, instead of simply ghosting. But because of this feeling of never making the cut, and impulsiveness, I’m just at a loss for words and don’t know what to answer.
The easy part is I want to say that I knew there was something fishy and was expecting this kind of text sooner or later. The hard part is saying that I am bitter because the girl was my kind, and I was eager to get to know her more, but I don’t want to sound pitiful and miserable. I also don’t want to sound too aggressive, something that I have issues with.
And with the current state of affairs, I have the feeling that any advice you can give me on this one case will be useful for the future rejections I may face in the future.
Many thanks, and appreciate all your ideas and insights .