I need advice, I (33f) have been in a 4year relationship with partner (39m) he has always had a few to drink after work, a couple cans in the evening,but now he's drinking everyday 10+ cans a night. He has stopped drinking for a max of 2 weeks before but then come Saturday night he says it's the weekend it's just one night and then he's back to drinking every night.
I've been supporting him, he says it's not an issue, it doesn't effect his job he doesn't become violent so what's the issue with him drinking. Which is true but I do get a torrent of verbal abuse from him, calling me fat and lazy and how I never do anything. ( I work fulltime, have a child(7m)and SS (5m), cook and clean)
If I disagree with him he gives me the silent treatment until I apologise for my behaviour! In his words for being a lazy c*nt who takes no responsibility.
Tl:dr
Is this alcohol? Is this something else?
When he's in a good mood he is amazing to be around, then I'm the best partner he's ever had, he'd doesn't know what he'd do without me… ect. But then there's a total flip and he tells me he regrets being with me and wants a new Gf.