Hi, I just found out that my partner of 10 years (married for 5) has been deceitful about our finances. We are talking a 100k credit card debt and zero savings – in retirement or otherwise. The deceit was in being in debt and incessantly lying about savings.
We have a child and I struggled with some anxiety while TTC for a second because of all the unnecessary testing women are now subject to assuming we all need IVF. Im a healthy, 36yo and we ended up getting pregnant successfully both times on our first attempt but I do have DOR and one tube only.
We’ve had issues in our marriage in the beginning and did couples counseling in the past and the only reason I went in for a second is because my marriage had been at a healthy place for a while. I’m 16w now and just found out about my partners financial infidelity.
I’m considering divorce but I’m torn between deciding to continue with this pregnancy or not. I’m getting counseling and have spoken to my doctor. I have decent finances but will still struggle financially if I end up having two. More importantly my parents help out with my first kid and they’re getting older and I’m not sure how long I can rely on them to help me out if did have a second. I know the practical option is MTP but I have wanted this kid for so long and want my child to have a sibling that I’m torn. I have a few weeks to decide.
What would you do? Please help a discombobulated mom whose world just came crashing down on her.
Also how does child support work? Does it cover rent?