I’ve been researching on the internet about how to be more respectful to women. I have autism and I’m severely social isolated so my social skills are heavily lacking for my age. Something I’ve been reading about is the idea of unpaid emotional labor. Where women have to place the comfort and feelings of men above their own. And how it’s a part of the patriarchy and all that. As I understand women face a lot of danger so they have to exercise extreme caution with interacting with men so they don’t get hurt. Because even if I am a respectful person, I could cause her to feel uncomfortable and perform unpair emotional labor, which is sexist and would make me someone who doesn’t deserve to be liked. So the only solution I can think of is keeping my interactions with women to a minimum, only engaging when absolutely needed unless a woman initiates a conversation. That way I create the least amount of unpaid emotional labor possible and be more deserving of being liked. (I know that no man deserves to be liked because men aren’t entitled to women’s friendship but I can do the best I can to be someone who deserves it)
Anyway, how can I be 100% confident I will never ever cause unpaid emotional labor for women? Because if I say anything that has any chance of causing unpaid emotional labor, then I’m putting my personal happiness over women’s safety and security. So I have to be 100% confident what I’m saying will not cause unpaid emotional labor so that I’m not misogynistic and undeserving of love.