When I hear people say things like "Why are you dating/married someone who you don't trust?" Whenever you see a post about someone having doubts. I can't help but think those people are extremely naive and can only think in black and white.
Trust isn't an all or nothing kind of deal. It's not something that will always be 100% or 0%.
One huge factor is that you are getting to know someone the longer you… well know them.
What? Do you think every single person in the world laid down every single card on day one? Heck, some people can hide cards for decades or situations you never thought about could happen.
Trust is like a car.
When you first buy a new car. You don't always spot issues. But you still need to maintain it, keep it working.
If the "check engine light" comes on, do you throw the car away? No, you see what's wrong first
The same thing applies to trust, if something in your trust with your s.o. gets shaken, does that mean you throw the whole relationship away? Of course not. You figure out the problem.
It is HUMAN for your trust in your partner to be shaken every now and then because THEY ARE ALSO HUMAN. They will make mistakes that might have you questioning things, or they MIGHT actually be doing something wrong.
But just having your trust shaken is normal once in a while.
Of course, back to the car analogy, if your car keeps breaking down, then maybe it's worth considering getting rid of it.