(It's very early in the morning so excuse any errors)
The usual advice I see on here is to go to the gym and join groups and whatever. Me personally? I'm not diagnosed neurodivergent or anything and I'm a decent looking person on the outside but I can't bring myself to say anything whether it's in person or online. I even went through college barely talking to a single soul!
When joining discord servers (my current method of trying), for example, everyone already knows each other. Another thing too is that there are never voice chats on such servers except for the super popular ones, and the text chats move so fast on those that I have no idea how people converse there!
In person, it feels anything but natural for me to express myself. I do find myself listening much more than talking, but I can't help but think that makes me boring. In group situations I'm usually left out; it sounds a little selfish of me to say that but it is true to the point in which no one even tries to direct a conversation towards me.
Where in the world can I find someone that understands, is the same way, or doesn't care?? It's so frustrating!