Hi. When I was in my early 20s I met a (local) woman who stole my heart whilst teaching abroad in Asia. I chased her for a year, and we finally got together for a year and a half before I returned home. After two years at home and levelling up my qualifications, I went back for her. It was amazing! Reconnection, the honeymoon phase all over again. I got a job at a school in her town which opened up at just the right time. Promoted to Head of Dept within a year. Great career moves for me. We just had a baby too. The big issue – living at her large family house with her mother-in-law. It's starting to feel like some sick parody of what I wanted for so long. My dream of marrying her and starting a family has been twisted into a horrible version where her (actually very pleasant) mother feels ever present. I sit and wait hungrily in my bedroom at night for the kitchen to empty before I eat. My wife is reluctant to move out as she feels that she should make the most of time with her mum, before coming with me in a few years to my home country. But I don't know if I can take it for much longer, and am also struggling to find any decent accommodation!
Has anyone ever been in this situation or something like it? I'm sure the arrival of the baby is a mega-shock which has exacerbated my discomfort with the living situation. But most days at the moment I find myself in tears throughout the day and with extremely dark thoughts.
Looking forward to insight from any older guys who can relate to any of this. Thank you!