I’m 21 m and I have this coworker who I have bee friendly with for a long time but never worked up the nerve to ask her out. About a week ago after work I asked if she wanted to get dinner she was busy that night but suggested that we go later in the week. A few days later she came to me and suggested that we go to a bar. We never really specified if it was a date or just hanging out as friends. I asked who else was coming with and she said it was just us two.
The “date” went really well in my opinion, she was very easy to talk to and make laugh. There was some light teasing and flirting but nothing that made it obvious she was super interested in me. While we were talking about coworkers she mentioned that she used to date on of our other female coworkers. I’m not sure if she’s lesbian or just bi. We agreed to go to a hookah lounge sometime soon but couldn’t agree on a date because we are both super busy with finals but she said some time next week. I’ve been on a many dates and I feel like that was probably my most successful one but I’m unsure of it will go anywhere
So overall there were some good signs but nothing that made it obvious she was romantically interested in me rather than just as a friend. It’s been 2 days and I haven’t really heard from her I hesitate to reach out because I don’t want to seem desperate. I won’t be seeing her for another week because our work schedules don’t match up. Also she’s very attractive, I’m average looking but that gives me doubts that she’s seriously interested in me.
So mainly I’m just confused about if that would be considered a date even though it wasn’t explicitly stated. I’ve had a thing for her for a long time and I’m kind of struggling with the uncertainty of the situation, I realize that my best course of action is to play it slow and see what she says but im kind of losing my mind waiting, it’s hard to not stress about. Once I do see her what should I say, should I try to clarify whether the next time we hang out is a date or not? How can I see if I’m just a friend or she is actually interested in me.
If it’s obvious she isn’t into me please let me down easy I’m just a little boy.