I just heard about this phenomenon the other day and I kind laughed but apparently some people take it seriously, in particular women. I do understand why it happens to women and in some ways I feel bad for them .
Im not ugly but I've never been someone that people look at so I could careless. Hopefully that means it won't effect me. I don't know if it happens to men but its pretty funny to me.
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After a certain age? Mate, I am invisible now!
Might try robbing a bank at some point.
Old men are largely invisible
I can only speak for myself but as a single middle aged man I feel like I’m viewed as more of a threat than when I was younger.
So not necessarily invisible, but more suspicious
Most dudes are invisible to women.
You’re just experiencing what it’s like for most guys all the time.
Probably the domain of women that “see” you are different. If you’re a 50-yr old stud, 20-yr olds aren’t going to be interested, but 40-yr-old will.
What do you mean, I have been always invisible
Men being invisible or not has nothing to do with age.
Yes, soon after the age of 4… midway through preschool and we start outgrowing our cute toddler phase
Everyone is unique, but in generalities, women are pursued for youth and beauty. Men are pursued for means and competence, capability, which is curated and crescendos later in life
This imbalance makes men the pursuers in their teens and 20s, many women are pursuers in 30s and 40s
how old are you OP?
The tough part is you eventually learn that most people, men or women, start invisible and stay invisible most of their lives.
People get way less attention than you imagine
People used to look at me and smile. People just look at me and look away now.
The other day this Japanese movie I was watching had a prisoner joking with others after one guy said he was arrested because he slept with a samurai’s wife. The guy joking said being handsome is a curse.
In time you’d understand but in case you’re too vain: getting used to getting your way is a good way to fail to learn to appreciate things. We all age and lose our visibility and attractiveness in the eyes of others, but thinking you’re immune is just gonna mean a harder fall.
Depends, but typically if you continue to take care of your looks and dress fashionably, you stay visible for a very long time.
Visibility is different for men. Women get it even if they don’t want it or like it starting at a young age. For most men visibility is something you have to actively seek your whole life.
We were born invisible. Seriously. Unless you’re overtly, actively advertising your existence somehow, nobody gives men a second glance.
Why do you think women become invisible after 30? Some of the most beautiful women I’ve met are 30.
We are invisible at the beginning 😂
I was invisible at 14-39 and counting.
Depends entirely upon how attractive you are.
Chris Hemsworth, even if he wasn’t a movie star, is absolutely getting attention from people when he goes ***anywhere*** and he’s 42.
Seth Rogan on the other hand, if he wasn’t a movie star, would be filtered out into the visual background noise, and he’s 44.
I still have my hair, so no. But my bald friends say yes.
$ometime$
At some point my partner jokingly asked one of my co-workers if I was like a “work husband”. Her reply was to wrinkle her nose and say “more like an uncle maybe”. I felt pretty bad. I felt that for a while.
Yes, older became invisible too.
I’ve gotten WAY more and very noticeable attention from women. At 35, women from 25-30 are lining up. It’s weird and I would have never known
Ive tested this. The only people that speak to me in the day if I have a day off are those paid to (barista, gym receptionist, check out person). Does that mean I’m invisible? No. That’s just being a bloke.
We start out more invisible than women. If you want to become invisible, don’t take care of yourself. At 54 I still get interest from older and younger, because I have all my hair, I take care of myself and I work out. I am not unattractive but I have never been more than a little above average. Doing that at 20 is pretty common. At 54 it is very rare.
I get a lot more unwarranted respect.
It’s different for men. The vast majority never got that kind of attention, so the feeling of “becoming invisible” doesn’t happen. We’ve always been somewhere between invisible or mistrusted.
Most of us are invisible all the time.