I 22M have "changed" a lot this year and it's only been 4 months.
I don't know what it was but I guess somewhere along the way going into 2026 I made the decision to "change" I locked into going to the gym, I moved out of my parents place and I started reading and writing more.
Ive learned a lot about myself through the books ive read but I really took to heart the lessons in "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover.
I really took the time to reflect on my life with what I read from that book and I applied it.
I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. Currently at this moment in time I am WAAAAAAAAAY OUT of my comfort zone. Like 2 galaxies away type of out.
It brought about good things, I asked out a girl and faced rejection (something which I never imagined I would ever do) and at the moment I am doing an extremely social job.
Thing is, I still feel like my old self. Some days I am my old self. In the way that I talk, walk, body language, mannerisms, etc.
My old self was a non-verbal isolated antisocial porn and weed addicted boy.
I feel as If I have changed but some days I get bouts of depression or feelings of withdrawal and self-doubt and I just want to return to my old ways.
Each day though Im pushing but I feel like Sisyphus rolling up the boulder.
To those over 30, were you able to consciously change? or did your environment, time, or cemented habits determine who you are today?