Me 23M and 27F. She works at a local coffee shop I like to go to and I would go there often for cakes for family Bdays. One day I go in there and I see her like I always do and I ordered a cake but have to wait for it to come out ready. While I'm waiting for the cake shes being overly friendly and very nice. I enjoyed my interaction and start going more often just to talk to her. After going very often and having great conversations with her I decided to ask for her Instagram and she gives it to me.
We start talking and things are going very well. Shes extremely nice and she invites me to go grocery shopping with her and her little sister because she was going to try making pastries for the first time. It goes well I noticed shes a bit nervous but it all goes well. Now later in the week I explain to her that I go home for my lunch break at work and she tells me she'd be willing for me to come to her place for lunch and I tell her I'd happily go. After she makes pastries she invites me to her apartment to eat after work. After work I get ready to go to her place at the end she's says she is tired and she would rather have us meet up at some place to give me the pastrie. So I tell her let's go to Target. We go to target I sit her car and she talks about work and I talk about my work, then she talks about her tattoos and what they mean, and we just talk about our lives. We then go into the Target to get something to drink and I give her my hoodie because she's cold. After that we talk in my car this time and are getting closer and hugging each other till we both leave because she works the next day and it's late. I tell her to take my hoodie and to worry about it
Now I get home and I try her pastrie and tell her how good it is. We start to talk a little more flirty now. At this point we go on an actual date I pick her up she has a really pretty dress on and we go to this cute little girly place that she wants to go to. We then talk around the plaza shes holding my arm and I'm hugging her so we're a lot more close then what we had been before. I do notice she is a little nervous but still open. I take her back to her job where she will meet with her little sister. We keep talking and she said she enjoyed it I knew I did and I told I'm really happy being with her. We keep talking and the next day I see her at work I get a coffee and sit down and I talk to her this time even more playfully. We greet and say goodbye to each other with a kiss on the cheek. Now I was running errands this day and was out all day didn't eat anything till the afternoon and was going out of town for my errands. I go and get her flowers and a stuffed animal I give it to her waiting till she got out of work.
She was super happy and we said goodbye and kept texting and always being friendly and wishing each other well and lots of kisses. Now she told me what where my intentions with her and why I was being so friendly with her. I explained to her that I was happy with her and that she made me happy. She told me she was opening doors for me that hadn't been open in a long time. She also told me I made her happy and she likes me
Latter that day she invites me to her place to help her set up her computer. Now I tell her I'm studying IT and I can help her. So I go to her place she wearing pajamas with nothing underneath. I "help" Her with her laptop after that we snuggled in bed with a movie on. One thing led to another and we had sex. The sex was amazing I know we both enjoyed it. After that we watch a movie for a bit then I leave because both of us need to work in the morning.
After that, same thing she wished I got home safe with lots of good night kisses and same thing in the morning we wished each other a good morning and a great day. Now after that I noticed literally the next day she was distant with her messages she said she was working a double shift. So I understood and just expected it to be that. The day after that she wasn't working because she had worked the double shift. I noticed the same thing her being distant with her messages. I stopped by where she works for my coffee and she wasn't there but she hadn't told me she wasn't there. Now I tell her in friendly manner that I didn't she her so then she told me she had the day off. Now I noticed when I would message her she would be online for extended periods of time but not respond.
I asked her if she needs space or something from me but she just ignores what I'm saying. At this point I'm expecting her to just say she doesn't want anything even though up until literally the day after we had sex she was very happy saying she liked being with me and I'm a great person.
Now she tells me that we should just be friends and there will be nothing more then that. I tell her that I'm heart broken but if that's her choice I can't force anything. Now after that I go for my coffee I just say hi and have good day and that's it. I explain to her over text that it's really hard for me and I ask her if I did anything and she said no it's just her choice without saying really why just saying I'm a nice guy and continue being that way. I then see in her story that she said good are the men that bring flowers and a repost saying "I don't think he'll come looking for me" so my dumbass buys flowers and gives it to her as well with the Tupperware she gave me for the pastrie. I give to her I explain it's just a gift and I hope she's happy which she tells me she is. I explain it just a gift for a pretty lady and I'm glad she's happy. She then tells me that she'll give me hoodie that gave her that night she was cold. To come back the next day and she'll give to me. She then posts my flowers on her story. I come back the next day for my hoodie at the coffee shop and she doesn't mention anything about it. I leave and shes not as talkative, we just talk about our days and a good bye hug.
After that I mention I still think about her and I would like for to try to be together again. She tells me the same thing not keep my hopes up for something that won't happen.
I then noticed she posted a photo in her stories of flowers I didn't give her that said on the flowers "Just because you're pretty". I then tell her 'Beautiful flowers. I hope you're happy because I never made you happy I just humiliated you. You changed from one day to another for no reason'. She tells me that she doesn't like that and that from the start she was clear she didn't want me to keep my hopes for a something that isn't going to happen. Which isn't true she told me that after everything had happened and she said was happy with me and liked me. I explain to her how I feel about her changing from one day to another and it's just been sad and hard for me but she doesn't care about anything I have to say and leaves me on read
I leave things how they are and I noticed she posted my flowers saying 'All woman need to loved at full blast' with a video of her fixing up my flowers that I had gave her. These flowers were really nice and in a flower pot with the colors she likes. Then in another post with my flowers she says 'thank you for making me feel loved like I'll never be loved again' with small text in the bottom saying 'thank you for not doing anything when I wanted to leave'
I send her the post and say I'm happy she felt that way about me and that I did try my best for her not leave just not by bothering her. I explained that I would be happy if we were just friends and open with one another and if she needs time and space I would give it to her. She just ignores me and leaves me on read. I then send her text if she wants to talk in person over a coffee or where she would like. She tells me no that she didn't like how I handled the situation and that she would rather keep her distance. I explain I'm sorry that by the way I reacted because of how hard it's been and that will not be present if we talk. She say no to take care and be well. She then blocks me
It all just seems so quick and weird. Why would she go from being all loving to literally just ignoring me and my feelings from the span of a few days for no real reason? This has really left me with trust issues and a lot of question. Over all its just shitty and I don't get it.
Also why post my flowers and say I made you feel loved but also say you don't want to have anything to do with me. What did I do wrong?