I'd love to know why some of you may have stopped dating, what reason or story do you have for not wanting to put yourself out there anymore? We all have our reasons, and there's absolutely nothing wrong for not wanting to find love right now. But I'd love to know everyone's story
For me, I was with someone who meant the world to me for over 3 years. She to this day still means everything to me even though we're no longer together. I hurt her very badly when we broke up & did things out of impulse after separating like asking another woman out for coffee, thinking she was indifferent towards me only to discover two weeks ago she wanted to spend more time with me and might sort of like me. I ghosted her after making plans to hang out that Saturday because it was slowly creeping up on me that I was still in love with my ex. It came to me slowly after our first date getting together for coffee. It was a fun time but I left feeling…. empty. It left me feeling confused. It wasn't because of anything she did (well aside from only talking about herself maybe). But rather because I was subconsciously comparing her to my ex. Or maybe it was conscious? I don't know… I kept thinking about my ex that entire first date & how she asked the most interpersonal things about me as opposed to the person sitting across from me. Idk. All I do know is that when i realized I still loved her & missed her, I stopped reaching out to the person I went out to coffee with. Instead they eventually reached out to me. And even suggested another date when I was talking about my love for bike riding. I said we should go riding sometime, thinking she would just flake on me again. But she didn’t. I was already feeling conflicted because of my lingering feelings for my ex that I hadn't processed. And so I ghosted her. Maybe it was the best call because she didnt even text to ask if Saturday was still on later that week lol. Idk. All I do know is that I'm finally processing the loss and it's fucking me up from the floor up. I had to go home from work early today ffs because of how messed up I'm feeling today. L, if you ever see this…. all I can say is that me doing everything I've done these past few days is me choosing you….