Did my best to check myself on here before posting this to make sure I wasn't guilty of it myself. Looks ok……
I've seen this with one of my best friends and heard about a few influencers recently. They hate on the other side constantly. In my best friend's case it was his troubles with dating women. He had some real mean nasty things to say and it made me uneasy. Then he met a girl. Then a few weeks later they were dating. Then less than a year later they were married. Now they're trying for kid #2. He hasn't said anything bad about women for a long time. Same deal with the influencers who regularly post content about man-hate. Saw one stitched reel from this one lady that starts out "I know this seems hypocritical…" and it was her explaining why she's getting engaged to a man even though she said so much about why they're all shit.
I'll admit it was hard while being single and dating (last October met a great girl and it's still going well), not to fall into that trap and become cynical. It would've been so easy and felt so good to just blame my lack of success in dating on the other side. I get why people do it – it feels validating and everyone that agrees with you fuels that even more. And some of those frustrations are very real. But it poisons your viewpoint and you can't see things clearly. Are there shitty people out there? Of course – men and women. But if you write them all off you'll shoot yourself in the foot for when you actually meet a good one. I knew I had to keep reminding myself there's good ones out there I just have to find them *and* sort out my own shit so I can show up in a good way so as not to ruin something that would've otherwise worked out well. Fackin' hell it was hard, especially after so many disappointments and dashed hopes but I just took it as more work I needed to do on myself.
If you got this far, thanks for reading. And if you're still single and in the trenches know I'm rooting for ya. And remember to keep that positive outlook so you don't screw it up when you finally meet a good one. And if you did, learn from it and do better going forward. It'll be worth it I promise.