We’ve been long distance for about 7 months now since she went back to her home country to pursue higher education. For context we have a 6-7 hour time difference between us. So currently she is a full time student and has a lot of free time. I work full time but I work from home so anytime she’s not at class she calls me and just likes to stay on call till either one of us can’t anymore and her definition of can’t is only limited to if I’m going out with friends or if she’s going out with friends/family or to uni. Apart from that if we aren’t on a call she’ll start texting me asking if everything is okay etc.
Being on a call pretty much all the time on its own it’s pretty annoying and also limiting in many ways. Firstly it drains my battery so quickly that I’m constantly having a dying phone when I need it. It also messes with the volume so when I’m trying to watch a YouTube video or something else on my phone I can’t do that without also putting her on speaker. There are other small annoying things like this too which I won’t list to keep this short but having that happen 1-2 times here or there wouldn’t be so bad vs constantly makes it really annoying.
She also notices when I’ve muted myself or haven’t talked in a while she’ll just randomly make weird sounds to try to catch my attention and as cute as it is. It’s not at all fun when it happens when I’m out around people or on a work call or other situations and to make it worse she doesn’t just do it once she’ll do it once then give it 5-10 mins do it again then again till I either unmute and say something or text her back.
Sometimes she’ll need to hang up for some reason when I’ve already gone to bed and then she’ll ring me in the middle of the night without giving a fuck about what time I gotta be up for work. She will also try to pick up a convo the days I do wake up and pick up the call unless I just am so sleepy that I pick up and fall back asleep instantly.
I like her a lot and want things to go well but the constant calls have drained me over the months and I’m not sure what am I supposed to do. Before she left I sort of told her that calling all the time is gonna be draining af and she already got upset and thought that I was gonna try to break up with her once she left. If I do it now that she’s not here I know she’s just gonna think I’m trying to distance myself from her to break up or something. She’s a really emotional person and I know if I tell her about this she’s gonna end up crying and watching her cry I’m gonna give in and say it’s okay or something. So I’m confused how do I tell her this in a way so she knows I don’t want to end things with her?