It’s been a while and thanks to everyone’s advice everything has and is going smoothly…mostly. I’m here again today to ask mainly the women advice on a situation that I’m noticing that keeps occurring and I’m not sure how to approach these encounters. But first the update!
UPDATE
We are now officially a couple!!! As I’ve told a few of you on my last post on our second official date to the arcade, she said if I beat her (which I did) she would accept becoming my partner (this is important). The date went amazing just to keep it short and I might have F’d up by not giving her a kiss at the end because I was nervous and it felt like she wanted that because she was hugging me longer than usual but I gave her a kiss on the forehead which made her blush so win win I guess. We been on 3 more dates since and had a movie date a few nights ago where I cooked her some snacks and dinner and we cuddled, I massaged her feet and we fell asleep watching the lovely bones. Also I’ve met her child and they’re the most well behaved child uber ever met 😂
THE PROBLEM
Recently our conversations have gotten more…spicy as we began communicating our wants, needs, desires and dislikes. I’m noticing now that she tends to make dark jokes which I’m not sure how to react to. For example, she sent me a very cute picture to which I told her I would be busy for the next 5-10 minutes doing a strenuous activity to which she said “or you could just beat me until you finish ;P”. Which threw me way off and she played it off as a joke.
I know she’s had to deal with abuse before from her father and her ex and my overthinking brain is trying to determine whether she’s testing me to see if I’m an abusive person or if she’s trying to use it as a defensive mechanism and scare me off. Going back into our conversations I’ve realised she’s done it a few times and I never caught on because they were never over the top or intense as that statement. Or she could just be a masochist and want that but It didn’t come up in our spicy conversations but it could be that maybe she’s not ready to share and has been gauging my reactions to see if I’m open to it? I’m at a loss and once again asking for advice.