My boyfriend and I will be moving in together soon, and within a year or so, might get a place to share with his twin brother and his gf. 2 couples under one roof.
I have two concerns: my boyfriend is very very cognizant of any noise that might be heard by others during sex, and we only really have a truly relaxed time when we are at his current apartment alone or in a hotel. When he lived with roommates previously, it was always a hushed matter, and I’m dreading the idea of that being the norm, especially because we might be in close quarters with his sibling.
My second concern is not wanting to make them feel uncomfortable by anything they hear.
I’ve never lived with roommates before so I’m not sure how this situation would be handled. I’m not shouting from the rooftops but I’m not quiet either. We’re both young, healthy people so we do make noise, whether it’s our bodies or the furniture or vocalizations.
Any advice is appreciated.
Edit: I’m perhaps a bit more voyeuristic and maybe even perverted, but hearing people having sex wouldn’t bother me unless it was keeping me awake or disrupting something important. I crave an open channel of communication about sex where it can be discussed freely and joked about, sometimes crudely, but I am also quite awkward and have never had a narrative like that with my friends before. We keep pretty private aside from the odd innuendo or suggestive joke, so I don’t even really know how that would play. Uncharted territory.