My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years, living together for 4.
In the past few weeks, I've noticed her breath smells quite stale and unpleasant.
I was surprised because she's usually quite strict with her personal oral hygiene, brushing and flossing regularly.
I mentioned it to her delicately one day last week that I've noticed her breath has been a bit sour lately. She was a bit taken aback and embarrassed, but she thanked me for letting her know, started brushing even more often and having extra strong mints throughout the day.
However, the smell seems to be getting worse – not better.
Last night, we were having sex and I found it really, really distracting but didn't say anything because I didn't want to hurt her feelings.
I'm no oral health professional but I'm assuming she may have to go see a dentist in case it's linked to gum disease or tooth decay?
Any advice on how to bring this up with her gently and without making her feel bad?
tl;dr: My girlfriend's sudden bad breath is getting progressively worse I don't know how to tell her without making her feel bad or self-conscious.
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Could be tonsil stones. Definitely suggest she sees a dentist
Could be an abscess related to a wisdom tooth, definitely worth checking with a dentist. I had this earlier in the year where an abscess developed due to an impacted wisdom tooth and had to get it taken out. Can be dangerous to leave it untreated so best to get it checked by a dentist ASAP.
Stomach issues can cause bad breath too
sometimes underlying health issues can show this way, it’s not always related to teeth so better get it checked
Tonsil stones..
Tooth Abscess
Sinus infection..
Gastric reflux ( gerd )
You can give us some time to see if it resolves and if it doesn’t bring it up… gently as a health issue and not a judgment/hygiene issue
To add to other peoples comments, of those things doesn’t solve the issue, toung scrape helped my mother with the same issue.
Tell her that you don’t want her to feel bad or self-conscious, reassure her that this is something new that hasn’t been there before, and that your primary concern is whether this has something to do with her overall health.
And then tell her that the smell of her breath has changed. (you can say “changed” instead of “got stinky”)
people have already given good advice, but i’ll mention that she should back off of aggressive brushing since that won’t help much and might do more damage to her teeth and gums instead
Honesty is all you can do. My partner suddenly had very bad breath, and it was a build up of not tartar (not sure of spelling sorry or if i am explaining this right) but basically there was so much, and it had nowhere to go so it was just rotting in his gums. He was a bit overwhelmed, and asked if I could help him find a dentist as he hadn’t been to one as an adult and I went with him. I watched them cleaning it up on a big tv. The stuff coming out of his gums was legit black. He had to have cleanings every 3 months, an electric toothbrush, floss and mouth wash. Your partner wouldnt want you to not want to be intimate with her because of the smell, which is ultimately why I had to say something because it was impacting things. But this was a few years ago now, we’re still together, and he’s back on the regularly recommended 6 monthly dental cleanings and his breath and awareness of dental hygiene has never been better. He even bought a waterflosser the other day. She does likely need a dentist though. Aim for factual, no insults, state how you are feeling and that youre worried about her health.
I think mints and gum can make bad breath worse. Is she flossing? Drinking enough water?
If you make it clear that it wasn’t always the case, and that you’re raising the issue because it’s new and noticeable, she might be upset but she’ll appreciate knowing. No one wants to be told their breath stinks, but it’s better to know especially since this sounds like it might be an oral health issue.
Some medicines can cause bad breath too
If it’s a fruity smell, get blood sugar checked. Can be a sign of type 1 diabetes.
Does she go to the dentist every 6 months?
You tell her “hey, this is obviously not a hygiene issue but a health issue, since you’ve been doing all the things that should fix a hygiene issue and it’s getting worse instead. I think you need to see a dentist or a doctor about it to figure out what’s going on”
has she started any new medication? When my wife started on GLP1s last year i noticed her breath had changed. wasn’t necessarily bad but it was different.
Have you ever used tongue scrapers after brushing? Morning and night.. So much bacteria sits on your tongue. It can positively affect your overall health.
I introduced this into my husband’s life early on when we started dating, when I noticed how self conscious he was about some bad breath every now and then. He no longer uses those toxic mouthwashes, or has aspartame filled mints on standby. Tongue cleaning every day can make a huge difference!
Has she been losing weight or peeing a lot? Diabetes can cause a weird smell.
mentioning it dring a casual conversation might feel less awkward
Hey listen, I know I have mentioned this before so please don’t be embarrassed. Can you get it checked out? It could be a health issue.
maybe try suggesting a dentist together
Tonsil stone, I get those all the time. It’s disgusting and I feel icky.
You’ve been together for 6 years and you can’t tell her that her breath stinks?
i’ve been on the other side of something like this and it’s honestly embarrassing but also helpful to know if it’s getting worse, it might be more than hygiene. gentle honesty still means a lot tho……
Is she losing weight? Ketosis can cause bad breath in addition to the other things listed in the comments.
I’d just bring it up again gently that there is still a weird smell, you know it’s not an issue with her dental hygiene since she’s very careful with that. I would suggest she either see a doctor or dentist and just frame it as a health issue, not a hygeine issue.