The paradox being that guys who are usually more socially conscious of women generally tend to respect their boundaries, and might have a tendency to overcorrect, too, and in turn don't really approach women at all.
Meanwhile, guys who have more of a mano-sphere mentality don't really give a fuck and approach women and end up being assholes to them. The result being that more men who are misogynistic tend to date more women, and in turn, spread a worse outlook on men. But also that men who are actually respectful don't really get involved with women, giving the impression that respectful men don't really exist.
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It feels like you’re describing two extremes. I think the majority of men fall in-between, where they’re socially adept enough to approach a woman respectfully enough if they want to.
It’s not that much of a binary. Plenty of dudes who are socially conscious and respect boundaries also know how to navigate them responsibly and respectfully. Plenty of manosphere losers talk tough game but quake in their boots at the mere thought of a woman.
Too many variables.
Just ended with a guy who was very socially adept and aware. Very classy, respectful, charming and gentlemanly to everyone in public – but after a year ended up slowly emotionally and mentally abusing me with DARVO and silent treatments.
People with limited empathy, who do not care how their actions affect others, and/or do not care how others perceive them may have some advantage in dating if they experience fewer social inhibitions. One might read into what that may or may not mean about attraction, but numbers likely have as much to do with it as anything. If a guy feels no hesitation about flirting with and propositioning any woman he feels like, he may have a higher likelihood of success than a more socially inhibited man simply because he makes more attempts.
Whether or not this hypothetical guy is also misogynistic is another matter.
Women have an energy field around them and tend to attract “lessons” if they have wounds. The trick is to become less wounded and forgive others who have hurt you. You can also inherit trauma from your ancestors so working on meditating on it or praying about it and ask to clear those wounds or have them forgiven. Reality is much more spiritual than the secular world leads you to believe. You can become lighter and attract good men once you truly heal.