My husband has been giving his son money on a consistent basis for at least as long as I have been on my husband account. I don’t check it everyday. I usually look to make sure we aren’t dipping too low. Last year my husband gave his son on average $500 a month. I noticed it because it was alot of Apple Cash transactions. This year so far it more of the same. My concern is that my husband doesn’t know how to say no and I feel that my step son shouldn’t need this level of support consistently. I can totally understand if he needs gas, bill, or food money but last year my husband gave him over $1000 for vet fees for his son’s new kitten. So far this month he has given him $600 for the same cat that had a medical emergency. I don’t feel like this is my husband’s responsibility. We are trying to pay down debt, we live comfortably but not that comfortable that we can sustain this all this year again. Last year we got married and I didn’t get a ring because we were short on cash and then I find out that he gave him nearly 2k within about 3 months during that time. I dont think my step son is manipulative or anything. He is a good kid. He is 21, no kids, good job, works overtime and has a roommate. I feel he should be able to care for his own cat. I dont know if I should just swallow this or address it? I dont know how to approach it without making my husband defensive and protective of his son. I have 3 kids and I can’t imagine shelling out this much money every month. I could do $200-$300 a month to help during a tough time but this has been going on for idk how long with no end in sight. Have any of y’all been in a similar situation?