Hey guys, we were friends to begin with but he had some feelings for me (not too strong). We just both agreed to be fwb due to our own reasons for not wanting a relationship (fear/not ready/career…) whatsoever. We seemed to have some genuine chemistry, both physically and emotionally. Had some romantic moments outside the bedroom as well, and he started expressing more of his jealousy as it went on.
Not too long after, something happened in his personal life and he got distant. It was basically no contact. It wasn’t just with me tho, he also got quite distant from others. After a while, he reached out again.
However, he seems to only want me physically now. I’ve said certain things that hinted as me having slight feelings but wasn’t really direct about it. Just, worries and disappointment regarding the sudden cut-off.
I don’t want a relationship just yet, but I want to try to see where it would go if it were to be more. I can’t take this breadcrumbing treatment or the feeling of being used after sharing such romantic moments. As far as I know, it was quite clear there weren’t any third parties involved even during the cut-off season. He seems emotionally closed off and avoidant from what I know. Dont wanna scare him away.
Would the best way be:
Slowly initiate more emotional bonding rather than physical and try to shift the dynamic?
Or be direct about my feelings&wanting more effort and ask him to take things outside the bedroom to see where it goes?
Or other?