Sorry for the wrong flair, this is the one that matches best.

Mind you, this is a guy I've literally started texting with yesterday on a dating app. We've exchanged like ten messages.

Just now, he asked me when the last time was I've been in a relationship. Truth is, I've never been, so I told him that. And I explained it's because all the dates I've been on so far, the guys explicitly stated how they already had feelings for me (most of them on the first date, some of them on the second). Not "you seem fun and I can't wait to do this again", but actually "I've never felt this way about anyone before". And when I couldn't return those feelings, they were heartbroken and moved on from me. It was better for everyone I believe.

Anyway, this dude straight up says: "Seems like you're just not interested in committing." I reply: "That's not it, but it takes a little longer for me to develop feelings and I don't want to play around with anyone's feelings, so I'd rather be honest about it."

To which he says: "You probably touch yourself too much and now you're not interested in men anymore."

I literally can't stop laughing. I can't tell if he's serious or not, but it's made my whole day and I thought I'd share.

Update: I responded to him saying: "I think you're right. That must be it." Just to mess with him and see what he'd say. He responded: "That's why it's hard for you to have feelings for a man. Even if you would get one, you'd probably still be touching yourself because you've gotten addicted to it." I'll probably block him soon, but this is kind of interesting. Can you imagine there are actually people walking our planet, breathing in our oxygen, who think like this? Can you imagine being THIS shameless?

Update 2: My reply was: "I think you might be right. I really have a problem. I'll abandon all acts of self-care immediately and commit myself to an honest man who'll help me repent for my sinful deeds. Thank you for helping me see the light." His response: "You're welcome. Now that you know the truth, please stop doing it. Once you see the guy you love, if you no longer touch yourself, you can develop feelings for him."(?) So now you all know: just because you love someone doesn't mean you have feelings for them. And on that amusing yet confusing note, I'll block him now.


20 comments

  1. lmao the absolute leap in logic from “I need more than two dates” to THAT. What is wrong with people 💀

  4. OMG I wonder how deep feelings can really be after a few months. I think guys start saying I love you before they really have feelings any guy who says he has feelings after a couple of dates, I would just laugh at!

  6. I block them every time, and it happens so fast. Usually, in the first 5 msgs, it’s “I love you” or ” our kids will be so beautiful like you.” OK, no, bye!!!

  7. Depending on how your vibe was, this could have been funny banter between you two. Otherwiseeeee yikes that is a red flag haha

  9. I’ve had a few guys like this, and it gives me an immediate freak out. I am attracted to who a person is, not their physical features. If they think they have feelings for me after two dates, then they will hate me when they get to know me because I’m not goin to pretend to be the person they’ve dreamed up. And the fact that they are trying to push me into feeling something before I even can isn’t for me either. I’m good. I just put them right back where I found them and keep going. It works better that way. It also keeps the whack jobs away from me, which is where they belong!

  10. Love at first sight is absolute bullshit; It’s all about shallow af first impressions and physical attractiveness. It’s unhealthy and does not last.  
    Falling in love should be more gradual and meaningful for both parties, not necessarily years, but long enough for you to actually get to know the person and determine whether they are right for you.

  11. … GD! I got nothing else. Apparently this dude know women more than you! Haha

  14. All that “never felt this way” after a few dates is love bombing anyway. You’re saving yourself from the worst kind of man!

    I’ve recently deleted my apps and started touching myself more. 10/10 🤣🤣🤣

  15. It sounds like he tried to love bomb you, and when that didn’t work, he moved onto negging

  16. So many people are emotionally unavailable that if you are very open emotionally and willing to have more than just surface level conversations people will think you’re so unique and fall in “love” with you quickly. The problem is that they then don’t notice incompatibilities and tend to do whatever to please you in the beginning and over time become resentful until you both realize you never had much in common to begin with and the relationship was built on pretty much nothing. Ask me how I know (plz don’t actually)

  17. The guy you were talking to is a mouth-breather. There isn’t an intelligent thought in that thick head of his.

    You are on the right track, OP. Stay true to yourself, and keep speaking your truth. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re going about dating the wrong way, no matter what.

  18. I really do believe guys fall in love faster than women. That being said confessing your love on date one or two is crazy lol

  19. This is why a lot more men need to learn the difference between love and lust. Love isn’t something that you just feel immediately for someone, you have to learn more about who they are before that happens.

  20. What?! The dating scene is a shit show, I’m sure if you tried to commit after two dates (which to each their own, but I also feel like is crazy early), he’d suddenly feel smothered and like things are moving too fast. The reasoning is so funny some of my anger has dissipated lmao, the way he’s genuinely deluded himself into thinking he’s right and helping. Anything to avoid accountability and self reflection i guess 💀

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