Went on a first date last night with a hinge match. The plan was to get drinks at a rooftop bar, chat, and vibe before going out dancing to another bar. We chatted for about an hour and half over drinks and thought things were going pretty well.
Then we went over to another bar next door and got a drink there. After 30 mins or so there, I got us an uber to a third bar that was further away but was more of a dancey spot. We get there, get more drinks and go near the dance floor.
Once we’re there, a guy comes near us trying to hit on her, but he first asks me if we’re together to which I say “we’re on a date”. He then asks her the same thing, and she does not mention being on a date at all and just tells him we just met tonight and basically welcomes his advances and they chat a bit more. He also asked her in front of me if she’d pick him or me. I turned away while they were talking so I don’t know what she said but they exchanged contact info and he went away afterwards.
Once he left, she asks if that was weird for me which I’m like yeah that was. Then she tells me she thinks we’d be better as friends which I thought was weird to do 3 hours into a date and never mention it earlier. She says we should still try to have a good time since we’re out here anyways and that she’ll wing woman me if I want to pick up another girl at the bar.
I told her I don’t really want to do that since I would prefer to be with the person I actually came on the date with plus not really the type of guy to spend a night out trying to hit on girls at the bar to which she responds by calling me a p\*ssy.
I told her I think I’ll just go home and she got really upset and stormed away to get another drink. I really wish she let me know earlier in the date that she wasn’t feeling me that way we could have gone out separate ways earlier instead of me paying for everything, trying to find places that play music she’d like, etc.
If I’m on a date where I don’t vibe with the person, I usually don’t try to prolong it any more than I have to. And I most certainly will never try to hit on another girl or welcome advances from one while on a date with someone else just out of respect. Is it normal for people to do this?
Ironically she asked me what’s the worst date I’ve ever been on earlier and I didn’t really have a good answer since I like to think most if not all dates I’ve gone on have been decent even if there wasn’t a spark.