I’m home with 4-month-old twin boys & I’m completely overwhelmed. My partner works 8am-5/7pm and expects me to handle all cooking, cleaning, & 24/7 baby care alone. He sleeps in another room specifically so he doesn’t wake up for night feeds or cries.
I’m up every 2-3 hours at night while he gets full sleep. Days are nonstop juggling two babies, bottles, laundry, and housework. Evenings I’m still expected to give my boys a bath, feed, change then & cook + clean.
Recently the house got dirty because I simply can’t do it all. He called me “dirty” and said all sorts of hurtful things. When I told him I can’t manage everything, he claimed “my sister does it with 5 boys and her husband has never helped her.”
I’ve asked calmly for help sharing nights or even one feed so I can sleep. He says his job is stressful and he needs rest. I get that he provides financially, but I feel like a single parent + maid. I’m exhausted and resentful.
Twin parents or anyone who’s been here, What did you & your partner do that worked?