My [26F] and my boyfriend [28M] have been together for 5 years. I feel that we are at a plateau in our relationship. I feel like we are in the roommate phase and that there isn't an inkling of engagement or marriage. I feel that since the beginning I have been doing wife things for him and its like a "well she does this now, why change what is already being done". I have tried to step back but that is just not who I am, when it comes to someone I love, I give 100% of my time and effort- not saying I am perfect by any means. I have seen posts about being with someone for 8+ years and no expression from the man of even wanting to get engaged. I know that every relationship has its own timeline, but that to me sounds like the Hilary Duff quote of "waiting for you is like waiting for rain in this drought… useless and disappointing". The only time that it is ever a discussion, is when we are arguing and the "where do we see ourselves" comes into it. A lot of our friends are now getting engaged and married. Please know, that is not the reason I want to do it as well. I feel that half a decade with someone should be able to decide whether you want to be committed to someone for the rest of your lives. We have both had the same idea of wanting to be married someday, so it is not a "he didn't and she did" kind of thing. All of our friends have said that being married doesn't feel any different, other than the title. I have wanting to get married ever since I was a little girl, the thought of having someone chose you to love and to be their forever… it has always been my dream. It's not about the wedding aspect- I would take a $15 ring and an elopement. I just don't want to put all of my love and effort into someone who has no real intention of marriage. I don't know how to even go about the situation or if anyone has been in a similar situation who has had positive resolution. How did people in similar situations go about it?
TL;DR Been with boyfriend for five years, is that enough time to consider marriage or am I wasting my time?