**TL;DR;
My dad jokingly put his hands on my throat and i feel very uncomfy with it. i cant really tell him it made me uneasy because it will turn into a huge thing so either talk me down from the ledge or tell me im not crazy for feeling weird.**.
My dad jokingly put his hands on my throat and i feel very uncomfy with it. i cant really tell him it made me uneasy because it will turn into a huge thing so either talk me down from the ledge or tell me im not crazy for feeling weird.
Hi, so I am 23 and i dont live with my parents anymore but i do go over and visit quite a lot. My father has been distant ever since i went through puberty which i guess is common. He and my mom are constantly fighting and it seems that both of them try to hurt each other by being possessive over me. both of them trashtalk the other around me and then tell each other how much fun i had with them. My dad is a very angry man and in the past he has been verbally/psychologically abusive towards my whole family. Physical abuse only happened a couple of times and i guess its the type where its hard to tell if it constitutes as such at all. He once picked me up out of my sister's bed by my arm and slammed me on my bed.
Yesterday, i was at my parents place to visit and i was writing a paper for school on my laptop. he came up behind me and massaged my shoulders, i made a joke about being so tense i couldn't feel it at all, so he did it a lot harder, which felt alright. he then jokingly put his hands around my throat from behind, not hard or anything. but i was seriously freaked out by that. am i overreacting or is that a normal thing an awkward dad might do? i left my parents place pretty much immediately after this. he was in a weird mood anyway and being very passive aggressive, slamming doors and huffing and puffing a bunch at everything that was happening around him. I feel bad about having to go back there for easter but i promised i would so there's no changing that now. i try so hard to fight against my uneasiness around him and hating to be touched by him, even hugging. i think he has been trying not to be a bad dad and i don't want to be unfair to him over a weird thing he did but we also don't talk at all, so i don't know how to feel less weird.