My girlfriend has always been addicted to nic and weed in the past. During high school she got caught smoking nic and got drug tested by her parents. It came back positive and she got switched to a private school, no phone or friends for 6 months, and sent to a teen drug program. After some time she grew closer to her fam and gained her trust back
Fast forward 1 years later and she’s now 18, and we have been dating for 8 months. She was with her friends on a school field trip and smoked nic on the bus. A video was taken of her and her friends and someone snitched. The schools punishments were to take away her grad night (Disneyland), contact her parents, after school detention for the rest of the school year which is a few months, and 10 hours of community service.
Her parents are super Christians and are really strict, when they heard of that they told my girlfriend she had to pay them back for grad night which was $300, she can’t see me for 5 months, and no friends or going out for that time as well. On top of that my birthday is coming up and I bought two tickets to a concert for us, and I was going for one day on a family trip with them, which all got cancelled.
Her parents drug tested her this time after getting caught only smoking nic and it came back positive. I told her for the past month that she should chill out c her parents already told her they would randomly do tests and that still happened. She wouldn’t listen, and would go out smoking with friends so it didn’t matter. That wasn’t the reason she got caught though.
This whole situation made me feel horrible, I sat there and I feel like I got punished for doing nothing and telling her to chill on smoking. She’s doing horrible as well. Her parents have the right to punish her and be mad but this is all too much in my opinion. I have no other birthday plans and this was the worst possible outcome. In my head there’s nothing I can do, who am I to tell her parents how to parent.
TL;DR
Gf got caught smoking nic, school punished her like crazy, parents added more on top. We can’t see each other for 5 months. We are both stressin and doing bad mentally