I’m so fed up with the ridiculousness of this situation and I need someone to tell me whether I am wildly out of touch.
For context: my husband and I have a 15year age gap, he’s 42, I am 27.
He also has low 8 figures invested. (More than 10, less than 20). He doesn’t work anymore, and all he does is maintain his net worth while living off dividends. His wealth is his and only his, I signed a prenup and I am not entitled to any of it per our marriage regime. I was completely fine with this and still am.
I went back to college after we had our kids but I also simulteanously started an online business that has grown really really rapidly. I had no income when we started dating and for the first years of our marriage because I was pregnant / taking care of the kids / in school. So when I started my online business and it was making very little money, there was no expectation for me to contribute to the bills.
In the span of a year, it has rapidly grown. By next year I’ll probably start making 6 figures. I started this thing entirely on my own while taking care of our children and going back to college, while being enrolled in a difficult STEM program. I always shared with him milestones I was excited about.
Recently, he has been talking about splitting bills « proportionally to our income ». I said it’s wildly unfair given how much higher is net worth is, I literally only have 30k saved up. He says it’d make him feel as if I was « an active participant in the financial arrangements of the family ».
The money I make is not being blown up on bags, and cars… I am investing most of it or putting it back into my business. I am aware that I’m luckier than most and that this is a first-world problem. I just have no idea where to even go with a situation this ridiculous.