Gold digger that pays for everything????
(26f) my bf(?) (28m)and I have been together for a year and a half. he's worked for 5 months between 2 jobs since we got together and I've had my same job since before we had met. now we are or where engaged (idrk where we stand rn) all I've asked for is for him to get a job to pay for his phone and his car. that's it. I'll pay the rent, the utilities, the food, fkin everything else just please cover your own shit. but now I'm being told that I a gold digger because I'll just "take advantage" of him if he gets a job because he'll have the money for me to take. he's mentally not as well as anyone would hope and had an episode the other day and broke everything off before packing and leaving. now it's my fault for being a little bit distant and needing certain things to change In order for me to even be able to buy myself clothes, let alone continue the relationship. I love him but I don't think I can do think anymore, he has squatters rights to the house we live in and I rent so it'd be a whole process to get him out. I have zero money to my name, no family that is willing to help and I just feel so alone. idk what to do and have no one to turn to.
Edit: yes I understand how stupid and desperate I seem. Believe me there's nothing yall could tell me that I haven't already said to myself. Im so angry and ashamed with myself for allowing this to happen. Im disgusted with myself for letting all of this go just to avoid being alone.
tldr
my bf hasn't worked our entire relationship and I pay for 100% of everything. now that I have voiced a problem with this dynamic I'm suddenly a gold digger.