My husband (34m) and I (33f) have a history of playing jokes on one another. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 7. We watched a scary movie the other night and we are both freaked out in our house right now. We have cameras in the hallway to the bedroom. We can talk to each other on them.
While I was getting the kids from school I logged into the cameras. I have to wait about 30 minutes so I had time to try to be goofy with him. There is a lag when I log in, when the video uploads to a live feed, and when the app gives me access to the mic. I couldn’t see anything but I could hear it. I was just about to do some scary voice and I heard the lube bottle.
I know it was the lube bottle because it’s almost gone and it’s to the point where it sounds like ketchup at the end of the bottle.
My mindset flipped and I was going to start moaning. Then I hear his phone camera video record sound. I stopped what I was going to do and I froze. I heard him moan, I could hear him masturbating, and I hear him moan again when he finished. I heard the video sound again. I quickly got off of the camera system and I waited. And waited. And waited. No video ever was received on my end.
I had to put on my mom hat and got into our routine for the evening. He was “asleep” when we got home. He works nights so it’s not unusual. But I know he was awake 10 minutes prior.
This happened two weeks ago. Still no video. I haven’t brought it up. He showed me a picture on his phone of something unrelated and there was no video. He either sent it to someone else or deleted it or both. I’ve had suspicions of him being shady on his phone for a few years but I’ve never heard or seen anything to confirm. Only “coincidences”. If I ever bring up said “coincidences” it always turns into me “looking for something to be upset about.” I don’t think I’m looking for something to be upset about this time. I’m confused and don’t know how to confront him or even if I should.
I’ve asked him in the past if he wanted to open up our relationship or reestablish our boundaries and he’s always said no. I don’t know what to do and I don’t have people in my life that I can talk to about any of this.