TLDR: My bf (partner of 9 yrs) went ghost and I need advice on how to handle it with care for him or if I should let it go.
For a few weeks we’ve had pockets of arguing and then “peace” in our own way. He told me he was depressed a few weeks ago as well for background info. But recently we were “fine” in conversation and nothing seemed off. He said have a good night last Friday and then stopped texting since then. Because he was depressed, I asked both his parents if he was even alive bc we live 2 hrs away from each other so I can’t check easily. And they confirmed he contacted them on Saturday. I asked again and the mother said she got a text from him on Sunday morning. So once I had confirmed he was alive I’m now stuck on what to do about the ghosting.
I texted three times and four times from Friday-Sunday. He didn’t respond to anything and I mainly asked if he was alive and said I was concerned because he wasn’t speaking. Today I saw that he deactivated 2/3 of his instagram accounts but he’s still active on other platforms. Usually, one of us (mostly him) would communicate they want space and we’d take the space. But this was a cold turkey ghost. So I’m stuck between caring and just accepting the confusion for what it is and moving on?? But it’s hard to make a final decision when we’ve been in this romantic space for almost 9 years.
As I’ve said, I reached out to him and both parents. I kind of feel like I’ve extended myself but wanted to know if there’s more I could do to show support or if I should leave him alone? It’s kind of abandonment of the relationship but I just push it down so I don’t become affected more than I am.