so, a while ago my bf told me about this woman that he works with (actually they are in the same lab for graduate school) and specifically told me it was his "work wife".
alright … cool I guess. I don't love that but no real issue so I say nothing.
then he tells me that they joke about being in a relationship and that at least one other person has asked if they were dating.
ok…..not sure why you told me that…but alright. keep my mouth shut.
then, we go to her birthday party she had.
at the party, I saw him grab onto both of her hands in a way I've only ever seen him do with me. I see her, at LEAST 3 times put her hand in his lower back. the entire time she's fighting for his attention, calling over to him to show him random stupid crap on her phone. and also staring at us anytime I would touch him or hold his hand. She would also grab his wrist anytime he was near and just be way too close in general. Pretty obvious she has feelings for him…
aside from him grabbing her hands at the beginning, it seemed mostly one sided (her side). He sort of seemed a bit annoyed at times.
I have already confronted him and he immediately agreed to talk to her, tell her she needs to stop being so touchy with him, and he will stop referring to her as a work wife. He admitted he hadn't really thought about it and wasn't considering my feelings, but also he didn't think about it because he has no feelings for her so he wasn't trying to "hide" or anything. I guess I buy that…
honestly impressed with his receptiveness, I totally thought he was gonna try to gaslight me (I would have dumped him on the spot—i know what I saw)
would you guys accept his response and keep dating or is this situation too sketchy? he responded appropriately which made me feel better, but I can't unsee what I saw. so the suspicion will always be there and I obviously can't see them at work. he says there's no history and no feelings on his end (I'm inclined to believe him …. let's just say she's not his type). thoughts? too sketch? dump him anyway?