My boyfriend and I have lived together for the past year. In that time, my sleep has absolutely gone downhill and I’m averaging about 4-5 hours most nights. Sometimes, very rarely, I get lucky and have a good nights sleep but those times are few and far between.
I love the idea of sleeping in the same bed together, but with the bed getting too hot, not being able to get into a comfortable position, mind racing 1000 mph, his arms and legs sprawled out and not being able to move mine comfortably, I am becoming agitated that my sleep is suffering and he wakes up rested. I feel like I’m hallucinating every day and am constantly on edge by the end of a torturous day at work on essentially no sleep.
This morning he asked how I slept and I said “you didn’t feel me squirming all night?”. He said, “No, I did but I was hoping you got a couple hours in after I left”. I said, “No, I didn’t. I’ve been thinking that we might have to have our own beds, I can’t keep functioning on 3 hours of sleep and I know it’s affecting your sleep too.”
He says that it doesn’t affect his sleep and that my suggestion made him feel weird. I’m not trying to punish him or for our relationship to suffer as a consequence of sleeping separately, but I honestly don’t know what to do.
Does anyone in here sleep separately from their partners? Has it affected the intimacy in your relationship?