I should note were in the conflict zone and so our sleep has been constantly disrupted by sirens. I'm normally with the baby from 8am – 4pm even though my husband is home he is in the other room working remotely all day (although it's a pretty easy job and he watches a lot of youtube videos while working).
Today he asked if he could play a video game for a few hours right at 4pm. I said sure and offered no resistance. I changed all of her diapers, played with her, sang songs, fed her etc and let him play the game with zero complaints until 9pm.
He was then with her for an hour and he allowed me to work on my current alien creature painting for that hour. But he complained a few times and started asking me to be with her again and I said "I let you play a game for 5 hours"
He then put her to sleep and went back to gaming and watching videos. She woke up around 11:30 and he gave her a bottle, but she wouldn't go back to sleep. After 10 minutes he blamed me for her waking up and started yelling at me and said "you be with her then!"
He yelled for a few minutes while the baby cried which isnt good at all of course. I've now been with her for a half an hour trying to get her to sleep. The baby is 10 months old so still needs constant attention while awake. I think of it like hours with her while my husband is at work, like I am at work by being with her (giving her a lot of attention) and I can't work on any of my art at all. I usually take naps when she does as well.
And I am started a remote part-time job as well and I don't get any free-time anymore I guess. He said counting hours is unfair because he "he works hard while I play with a baby all day." I also do 90% of cooking and cleaning.
Tl;Dr
The only time I actually get to do anything is 12am-3am when our 10 month old is asleep. My husband never has her even 50% of the time during both of our "off hours". He takes her like 10% of time. He said counting hours is unfair because he "works hard while I play with a baby all day."