I want to preface this with a few details:
– we are married; been together 8years, married for 2years
– we are about to have our 2nd child together (2 under 2)
– the birth of our first child “forced” him to take a new position that is remote-based. Before this, he used to travel every other week or so for work.
– there have been many times in the past few years that lead me to believe that he is unhappy, just as I feel I have settled (but again, big assumption). Our highs are VERY high, but lows are lows and suck big time.
Backstory:
I am just going to say it: I went through his text messages with his male cousin and found a screenshot he shared of a Teams convo with his coworker. The Teams convo with the coworker happened while he was away for a week-long meeting. There was definitely light flirting. With the screenshot, he sent the message (to his cousin): “She likes me I think.”
This led me to look at his actual Teams convo on his computer (yes, not one of my best moments, please let’s not focus on this). I found out that after that convo (in screenshot), the next morning, my husband went out of his way to share his plans of grabbing coffee before heading into the office and asked if she’d like coffee while he’s there. She excitedly took the offer.
Question:
Am I/my gut feeling wrong for thinking that was a bit out of line for my husband to do, offer her coffee, after getting validation from his male cousin about the convo exchange the afternoon prior? I cannot prove it because I didn’t look for other proof, but it highly seems like he only offered her coffee (and not the rest of the group).
Soon after returning home, he decided he all of a sudden wanted to go on a diet. He’s never had any interest, not for health reasons, not to make sure he is healthy enough for his family/kids… but coincidentally, he is traveling again in 2 weeks with this same group of coworkers. Am I completely misreading this or is this fishy af??