asked him about all of us (him and two kids) visiting a family member for a few days (which would be in about 11 days- and it's within driving distance) and he said you have got to stop waiting until the last minute for that crap!! And then he said NO, he is working and also covering for someone. I responded maybe he could still work as he works remotely and could do so on his laptop? and then he responds by repeating what I just said mimicking me in a different voice and did it again when I said I just meant maybe you could still work and didn't need to necessarily take the days off. I said I'm sorry , I wasn't trying to upset you and he said well I said NO and you keep on!!! I wasn't necessarily trying to argue, just offering a suggestion or at least discuss it….not just him immediately saying NO and… the end. Like maybe we could go over a weekend, then wouldn't be missing or have to deal with work. I wasn't demanding anything and I understand if he has to work. I wanted to discuss it….not him immediately say NOPE! And cased closed.
I think this is so disrespectful and kinda hurtful. I would never speak to him that way. I tried to do the same thing he did in my head and I felt sick at the thought of speaking so nasty (in my opinion) to him like that. Then he said he "tries to talk to me" and I didn't bring any of this up sooner ( going to visit at the time I suggested was something I had just thought of that day pretty much). And that's not true, I do talk to him …I just hadn't thought to bring this up for a discussion until that night. And "why did I wait until right before bed to have this heavy conversation?!?!?" (I was literally just throwing an idea out there to see if we could go visit a family member…not trying to have a heavy conversation) . That bothered him so much he tossed and turned for like 20 minutes before falling asleep. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was "pissed off". Then be wonders why I allegedly don't talk to him (that's SO far from true, anyway…..he just loves to throw absolutes out in every conversation like I "never"do laundry or I'm "always" late or I never plan ahead- how could any of things be actually true. If I never did laundry- then how are we clothed right now??🙄) or I am a bad communicator….he flys off of the handle and starts yelling over just a question. Imagine trying to have a real discussion about something!!
But yep , I'm always the problem. Is there anything you can do once they've decided it's okay to be so disrespectful towards you? He blew up at me and slammed doors just this past Sunday for running late and here it is Wednesday and I've messed up again.
TL, DR husband mimics me and is just disrespectful towards me and doesn't seem to care about it and I'm always the problem one way or the other.