It's a long story and English is not my first language, bare with me please. My GF of 3 years moved in America with her family a year ago, and I'm way on the other side of the globe. We started location sharing since the first few months of our relationship and it continued until she went to Chicago.
I caught her many times before lying to me about where she had been whenever I asked her. An example of this would be she told me she was going to a girl coworker's apartment to hangout and she even sent pictures of her coworker's cat, take note of this, now the first months of her being in Chicago she also had a male friend that she frequently hung out with but I didn't mind since I am not so insecure I would not allow her to have male friends as long as she updates me frequently.
Now I had a bad feeling since the interior of the apartment and the cat itself was so familiar, so I looked back to the photos she sent me way before and found out that it was actually that dude's apartment. So I confronted her about it and it just went haywire from there with constant arguments and eventually she tried to break up with me because she felt she had no "freedom" and she was "caged". We eventually got back together because I gave in to not having her location on, but over the next few months she keeps on forgetting to update me her status if she's alright and everything even going so far as only updating me the next day.
Now it would be fine if she were hanging out with girls, but she's hanging out with this male coworker ALONE. I personally think if I were to hangout with a girl alone, I would keep updates on my gf every few hours or so but she doesn't. This kept happening until I finally told her this relationship was over if she didn't have her location back on since the stress of not knowing if she came home safely was eating me inside out, especially if she doesnt update for a WHOLE DAY hanging out with another man. She agreed.
Fast forward to today, the location sharing app we use alerted me that she did not have her location turned on for almost 13 hours, I don't check her location much only to check if she came home safely so I was unaware why she had her location turned off. We talked an hour ago that she was doing laundry across the street and thats it.
I confronted her and she told me she turned it off because her bank told her to turn her location off so scammers wont track her billing address. Now I know for sure that's bullshit because my family is from a finance background and I know enough banks dont work like that.
But then she suddenly told me that she is at marshalls and an hour later she'll go to Sams club, which I KNOW is very far from her place and she will need to ride an uber or someone with a car. And guess who has a car? Her male coworker. It made me think if she really went to do laundry in the first place.
I became so sick in my stomach and honestly I have thought of ending things again once and for all. I havent talked to her for almost a day now and she keeps on bombarding me with calls which I ignored.
What are your opinions about this?