Trigger warning, Frustrated and Ranting
I am 25M and I am frustrated as hell. It feels like no matter what I do, nothing works when it comes to women and dating. I earn decent, I can live on my own, I go to the gym, I take care of myself, I eat clean, I have a car and a bike, I have freedom. I can go out anytime, do whatever I want. Still nothing.
And then I see guys who are complete trash getting everything so easily. One night stands, hookups, situationships, girls chasing them, calling them, booking rooms, everything. Guys with red flags, guys who treat women badly, guys who don’t even try. They get attention without asking.
Meanwhile I am here doing everything right, working on my body, personality, career, mindset, trying to improve myself in every way possible, and still I get nothing. No matches, no replies, nothing. Dating apps are useless. I have put good photos, tried properly, still no response. On top of that I even got scammed once and couldn’t even tell anyone about it.
I am an introvert but I forced myself to change, to approach, to try different ways. Still didn’t work. At this point I feel like something is seriously wrong. I feel like I am not even a man anymore.
And yes, I am going to say it. It feels unfair. It genuinely feels like something is wrong only in my case. Other people don’t even try and things happen for them. I am putting in effort and getting nothing.
I want connection. I want attraction, attachment, sex, love, anything. Hookups, FWB, relationship, whatever. Something. Right now it feels like life is just empty in that area.
And please don’t give me generic advice about mindset, discipline, self improvement, I have already consumed all that content. None of it worked for me.
I am angry, frustrated, and tired of this. It feels like no matter what I do, I am stuck.