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Finally deleted all the chat history with ex. I feel better and like I’m physically moving on a bit.
I’ve also been forcing myself to leave my apartment and see friends because it’s honestly the last thing I want to be doing
Advice wanted:
I went out with this girl for a few dates. I did really like her but at the time I was also going on dates with another girl. Decided to give it a shot with the second girl. We dated for a few months and then it didn’t work out.
I find myself thinking about the first girl and I want to reach out, but I was honest and said that I met someone else and I’m giving it a shot.
Any advice on reaching out for what to say? Or is this a bad idea and insulting because I already chose someone else once before.
It’s been 8 months since I last texted this girl. Second girl and I dated for 4 months and broke up 4 months ago.
My fifth first date of 2026 yesterday started with coffee and ended with dinner. 8 hours total length, which is a record for me. She was quite a talker, which I enjoyed for the most part, though I think she can get carried away with her own thoughts without passing it back and forth. Definitely attracted to her and want to see her again. She seems smart and we have a good amount in common.
I have a second date with another girl lined up for next Sunday. We don’t really text all that much in between dates which isn’t something I’m used to. She’s super nice and friendly when we do though, I would like to initiate more texting but I’m not sure if she wants to since she never really initiates herself.
A guy I’ve been casually texting for the last 3 ish weeks via Bumble rescheduled our first date 2x over the weekend. Once cuz his family wanted to hang with him (he just turned 33) and the other was cuz his relative had a mental health episode and his family was rallying to help them. Tentatively we’re trying to meet tonight even tho our window is pretty short. He’ll be too busy with work this week and then is out of town the following weekend to reschedule to any time before next week.
Before my last relationship I’d be ok with it. But my ex cancelled a lot during the last few months of our relationship. And coupled with the other things that feel too similar I’m cautiously deciding id i should drop this guy.
My friends think I should, but I also feel bad for judging them so quickly. But also like…I don’t wanna do this again
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I never understand online dating, one minute youre having great conversation with someone then silence…no response for weeks which sucks I mean I know life happens but damn its painful, I know people will say just move on but it starts to put a doubt in your mind “is it me? Am I imagining the good vibe?”
Went out this morning and just vibed. Had two good conversations at the coffee shop but they didn’t go anywhere.
No sweat, just building new routines and getting social reps in right now. Really looking to get in solid shape this spring so I may go out running in a bit 🤙
Date last night was fun and time well spent, but virtually zero flirty energy happening between us. Really striking the fuck out this single season and it doesn’t feel great.
The only people I’ve been really interested in just didn’t end up having long-term potential. Everyone else has been sooooo firmly in the Friend bucket.
Who else hates multi dating in early stages? Having multiple first dates is tricky to dance around and figure out who to continue with and who to politely move on from. I pause on Hinge a ton but a day usually yields a few matches with promise.
Inversely, I had a promising first date, deep conversation, lots of physical touch and a goodnight kiss, shared values, enthusiastic agreement to a 2nd date then all the messages stopped at exactly 9pm yesterday and I haven’t heard back since. Doesn’t take a genius to know what’s going on and I just keep myself detached from the whole process because of it.
I avoid both sides as much as possible. Onwards we go.
So the guy who asked me on a 4th date (that I was considering cancelling anyways), asked me my availability last week and hasn’t tried to plan anything since I gave it. So I guess maybe I’m off the hook.
Have 3 guys who have suggested meeting – so I am trying to narrow down times. Which is hard due to needing a baby sitter.
Still have my penpal situation (that I did see once). Almost easier than scheduling dates. I kinda get the appeal now.
We’re officially bf gf but we haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks. We had plans for me to come over to his place today but he said he threw his back out. This isn’t the first time. Idk what to do because I like him but this isn’t enough physical contact for me. He’s 15 years older and the age gap is really showing here. He wants kids but i don’t see how he’s gonna be able to keep up with them.
I think I’m gonna text him “I really like you but I’ve got things to think about” if he doesn’t keep his plans for me to come over today.
How to repair things (early dating stage)
I recently went on 4 dates within 6 days with a man, let’s call him P, while I was also texting another man whom I had also seen 4 times, but had no dates planned with him.
P had said early on, before we ever met, that he prefers to delete the app to limit distractions. I agreed, deleted the app, but was still in touch with my earlier date.
It was too early to gauge how I feel about either of them, but by the 4th date with P, I started developing genuine feelings. I told him during that date I’m still in touch with someone else. He asked why I went out with him if I was talking to someone else, I said because it’s too early to commit, and the other person has not committed either, and that I have no feelings for him, but that I would like to see P exclusively. He said he’s starting to worry and broke things off.
Can this be fixed?
I finally worked up the energy to do a few push ups and vacuum, despite cats distracting me with belly rub requests. Enjoying some window bird feeding and watching Gone Girl, my favorite romantic comedy. Hope everyone enjoys their day off, if not I hope your next day off is the best in recent memory.
Feeling a bit defeated. I live on a small island and the numbers game is definitely not in my favor here. But at least I’m finally overcoming my previous social anxiety and I’m actually confident with flirting with unfamiliar people at singles events
My confidence has been completely shot lately. Struggling to leave my apartment simply because I just don’t want to be out and about and interacting with people (some of this is driven by work where I”m handling (poorly) three major crises, two of which were caused by the current geopolitical situation which has been exhausting at best).
Focusing on reading, exercising, experimenting in the kitchen, and doing deep spring cleaning at home trying to re-find my spark.
Successful third date with a guy from my Jewish matchmaker! I think given the more formal avenue of meeting, he’s been extra respectful and very sweet, specifically not really breaking the touch barrier/kiss! We’re not orthodox/shomer so no worries on it being illegal 😛 I think I might start the fourth date with “I forgot to give you something” and then go in a for a smooch to break the tension. Thoughts? Clearly he’s interested otherwise he wouldn’t keep booking me?
Not strictly dating related, but can someone give me hope that blending my cat into my girlfriend’s two cat apartment will get better?