Hey Reddit, long story short I’m in a friends group that mostly consists of me(33 y/o F), my SILs, and a few friends. We have a dedicated group chat for planning girls nights and talking about w/e. Today my BIL texted me and said hey, my sisters and my wife are going out for my wife’s birthday if you’d like to join them. I asked is this a surprise? Thrown off a bit because the invitation never comes from the BIL and there’s been no mention of this in GC, it is not a surprise. Is this weird? Was I purposefully not invited, which has happened in the past to me and others in the group, and BIL just doesn’t know? I brought it up to my husband because it’s his family and he agreed it seemed odd, I don’t want to show up to something I was never intended to be invited to, but I also don’t want to back out based on vibes. My husband said I should message my SIL or one of the other SILs and just ask and him being a guy does not understand how just asking can start drama on its own. Oh forgot to add I’m not new to the family I’ve been here 10+ years…