I’m trying to figure out if I messed this up or if this was just never going to work, so I’d appreciate honest opinions.
I met this girl back in November. Early on, she told me she wasn’t really looking for a relationship, but we kept talking and eventually reconnected months later. When we started hanging out again, it felt different, like things might actually go somewhere.
Over time, I took her out on multiple dates (flowers, thoughtful planning, etc.), and I made it clear through my actions that I was interested in her romantically. She seemed receptive she would engage, ask questions, and we’d spend hours together.
There were also moments that felt like clear signals:
\- She suggested future plans like traveling, coming over and watching movies, and even cooking for me
\- she often would touch my arm after I would make her laugh
\- she mentioned that she talks about me to her mom and even gave me a nickname
On our most recent date, she was more flirty than before and even initiated plans, which made me feel like things were progressing.
But there were also moments where I felt a bit in my head. I got a little quiet at one point in the middle and at the end while we were walking she asked me to smell her neck for her perfume and then I asked to kiss her to see if she was open to it
After that, everything flipped.
She told me she feels uncomfortable with kissing and that she sees me as a friend. That caught me completely off guard considering everything leading up to that moment.
I ended things because I didn’t want to stay in a situation where my feelings would keep growing while hers weren’t there.
Now I’m stuck wondering:
\- Did I misread all the signs?
\- Did I move at the wrong time with the kiss?
\- Or was she just unsure the whole time and I was filling in the gaps?
Part of me feels like she was starting to come around, and I might’ve messed it up with timing. Another part of me feels like I was being slowly put in the friend zone.
Would you have handled this differently?