I can’t totally explain it, but the respect that I had for my wife for being capable of doing that turned into the strongest attraction to anyone that I’ve ever felt. In the moment it wasn’t sexual and it was just me wanting her to be ok, but eventually it turned into me being extremely sexually aroused by her to a degree that I’ve never felt before.
It isn’t a breeding thing. We both chose not to have any more kids. The best that I’ve got is that I was so impressed with her ability to do all of that that it turned into me being crazily attracted to her. Kind of like how I’d feel about someone that wrote, directed, produced, and performed in her own massive scale movie, only then proceeded to stay in the movie for her whole life.
And I saw… everything. My wife asked me to take pictures of her when the head was coming out and after the baby was totally out. I saw lots of things. I’m someone who has a really hard time with blood, and I fucking powered through with the strength of being amazed by her ability to do what she did.
I’ve heard about guys who lose all attraction to the mother of their child after seeing this. I’m curious how it affected you.
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I watched my wife have 2 c-sections. It made me admire her even more than I already did.
I watched my very small wife (4’11’, 95-ish #) squeeze two 7.5 # babies out of her lady parts without an epidural.
After that I feared her capabilities to endure pain
My first wife had a C-section. I already worked in a healthcare setting.
The doctor told me to wash my hands and glove up. I was right there.
Watched the procedure all the way through.
I actually got to hold our son first.
I respect her a lot for what she went through.
Always will.
It did not change my feelings. One c section after 24 hours labor. One planned delivery 8 am Monday morning.
I was so worried for my wife and for baby. I think the whole process was too scary, possibly overwhelming for me and I’m just observing.
My husband is squeamish and was surprised at how not grossed out he was by the birth itself. I put my foot in my placenta though and that almost made him faint. I think it’s so primal and immediate that he almost forgot to be grossed out. They had to cut the cord because it was emergent, and then after they were like “dad! Come on over and cut it…one more inch” and he was like…this is stupid lol
Watched?! I delivered my last kid alone, at home. No assistance. In the bath tub. Assisted the head and shoulders to come out. Cut the cord, did fundal massage, delivered the placenta…a million times better than the first kid being delivered at the hospital. Baby was healthy and crying, good color and movement, so I didn’t even call 911.
It made me love my wife even more. They are awesome.
I mean yeah if you think hard about it, it can be gross, but it’s just biology. The love you have for your kid should out weigh any thoughts like that.
My wife had two C-sections. I watched them both. Completely took organs out and put them on the table to get to the baby. Was the most amazing thing I’ve ever seen. Doctors were concerned I was going to pass out watching it, but that never happened.I thought it was pretty cool.
I told my wife later on. She didn’t think it was as cool. 😂
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I was with my wife throughout the full home birth process. During which I caught my own child on there way into the world.
I felt like I saw her reach a new level of strength and endurance.
Overall it was a great experience watching life comes into the world.
I was with my wife as she birthed both of our children. The sheer physical power of the female body became evident. Her endurance and strength humbled me. I cried both times, overwhelmed by the entire experience.
I loved her even more after watching her endure that twice to give us our family.
Married twice, three children, was over the moon for all the births. I was deeply emotional with the mothers but alas it was my second wife who stole my heart completely because she was a far better person.
I stayed above the equator for delivery, but I had really similar feelings. She had a long induction, and a fast and amazing pushing phase. Unfortunately she was re-admitted to the hospital and we had some subsequent health scares, although everyone is doing well now. The whole thing made me so in awe of her and her capabilities. It also made me want to be really close, because some parts were very scary. So count me in (the minority?) of people who’s libido jumped like crazy immediately postpartum, lol. It has since come down to normal levels because I’m tired.
You seriously wanted to do this 4 more times? Are you insane?
I told her then and even now, she is amazing for being able to deliver our baby. It was painful for her at times and she wanted to give up.
Our baby stood in the hospital for 60 days (he was born 2 months premature).
The one thing that stood out and the only thing that bothers me from time to time is a specific sound. Siccors snipping, my wife had a small part of her cut to make the baby coming out a little easier. It happen so fast and I was not expecting that.
I can still hear it from time to time.
It was a C section, now I know what my SO’s abdominal cavity looks like. I’m not sure how my feelings changed, I don’t like the smell of blood now as much.
She still hot. I still haven’t described what I saw to her, 21 years later. Zipped lip.
I watched a c-section and vbac both with complications. I’m definitely on the spectrum where most “normal” emotional attachment things are meh for me but I love my wife intensely, and the fear, admiration and love I felt for her in those moments are the most incredible and intense emotions I’ve ever experienced.
Made me realize women are amazing
I was there. Things went bad, and I had to act like I could handle it as they put tongs inside my wife to turn the baby.
It’s the most fantastic and horrifying thing I’ve ever seen, three times. I was filled with awe, respect and a touch of disgust, but it didn’t really change my feelings for her in any discernible way that I noticed.
It increased my love and admiration for her and did nothing to decrease my attraction.
I thought I already admired her plenty but I discovered new levels of admiration.
Seeing her give birth did, isolated, not change that much. Seeing her juggling being a mother and lover through our the years, is really inspiring.
It didn’t really change anything for me. I think the overall process of becoming a dad and my lifestyle and priorities changed me. I definitely feel a more familial love towards my wife. It’s stronger, but not that much different. But that didn’t happen in the delivery room, it was months of us caring for a baby together.
What I can’t relate to at all are the guys who say seeing birth made them less attracted to their wife. Honestly, that’s piece-of-shit thinking. She’s a human being, not a decorative object. If seeing blood, pain, and the reality of her body doing something extraordinary makes you value her less, then your view of women was already rotten.
Definitely took my love and appreciation to the next level. This woman must be protected at all costs like now I would force a watermelon through my taint for her.
Watched two C-sections. Knew after the first one that I previously made the right choice not to pursue a medical degree.
I think experiencing both of them had an impact on my desire to be a good father to them. That’s where the birth impacted me.
I thought she was a total bad ass. Like watching Ripley fight the alien. Hours of endurance and mental focus. Valleys of defeat and comeback after comeback. Great one liners dropped. It deepened my respect for her in many ways. I saw her strength and it was impressive.
Yeah she proved what I already knew. She was badass. I mean shit look what she just went through to make us a kid. Bad-ass.
Yeah it was gross as hell. But I imagined what it was like being from her perspective and got over it.
Like the Grinch, “My small heart grew three sizes that day!”
Man, it made me way too aware of how fragile everything is. It was amazing but also kinda horrifying, and she lost a ton of blood, has to be cut, forceps were involved…
It didn’t affect my attraction or anything, but I couldn’t sleep that night. And not just because of the baby, I was just stuck trying to process what I’d just seen. She didn’t even wanna know how much blood she lost ‘cause she didn’t wanna get traumatized and how close we were to disaster by something that’s supposed to be a good memory… but damn.
I love my wife more than ever after that.
I was in my wifes c section. Didn’t change anything, the shit sucks recovery wise, though. I found I wasn’t squeamish about it though.
Not a guy myself but I have a coworker I worked with all the time who would complain about conflicts with his gf very regularly or stir up questions about what we thought about some things. They had a girl through C-section a year and a half ago, which he fully attended, and ever since he’s NEVER said a single thing about her again in front of us, unless it was completely positive. I feel like it’s a deep admiration thing which changed his prespective completely, and not just a respect/honor thing around “she’s the mother of my child I can’t badmouth her even if I want to” . I wouldn’t know, but it seems like this at least.
I fell in love with her 10 times over in a matter of minutes as she pushed our son into this world. I still feel guilty that in the moment I didn’t care about the heath of the child, is was 100% percent focused on and overwhelmed with love for my woman.
Subsequently that new level of love and connection is mostly still here, in the form of a more mature, unbreakable respect and admiration.
My cousin told me about his experience with watching everything, he said “it was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen, but I probably won’t go down on my wife for at least a year.”
I saw nothing but my wife’s eyes, but I really didn’t need to see anything else to be amazed.
> I’m someone who has a really hard time with blood, and I fucking powered through with the strength of being amazed by her ability to do what she did.
Good man.
I’ve not had children yet but I definitely admire the strength of women who are able to endure it, and I can only imagine my admiration and love for the woman of my (imaginary/future) children would grow even stronger because of it.
You have experienced “pair bonding” to a higher degree.
I watched my wife deliver our first child through c-section, she had the nurse take pictures of the procedure, she was awake during the procedure but numbed? From the chest down…..i knew that day she was metal as fuck. When we were pregnant with our 2nd child the doctors said she’d have to have another c-section, she said fuckyou i wont do what you tell me and went in to have a 10hr labor and deliver our new family member with NO PAIN KILLERS. At this point i had not married a woman but an absolute unit, who, if they chose to could end me without a 2nd thought…..and i love her all the more because of it. Shes my Valkyrie💕
It didn’t really change anything for me. I still love her the same, if not more and it gave me a whole new respect of women’s toughness and resiliency.
It was cool to watch but it didn’t really change how I felt about her at all.
Watched both kiddos born
First one was natural. Holy smokes. It was wild ride. Crazy to see a human popping out of the fun zone. Lol. But took me a few months to want to bang again.
2nd was cesarean. Holy smokes again. How they just move the intestines ? Out and in. That was crazy too.
Respect to the ladies for sure. I dont know if I could pull that off
Scared me, badly. My wife’s heart stopped beating and all her stats bottomed out, 10min after an epidural. The excellent staff revived her in less than 5 minutes, and she had an otherwise normal child birth. Daughter is healthy, happy and sound.
I served 22yrs in the Marines, did 4 combat tours in the infantry, was shot, stabbed and blown up on multiple occasions. Watched some of my best men die in front of me, and to this day I still have nightmares about her dying in that bed. She is my world.
other than her, the only people in the delivery room were doctors, nurses and janitors.