Hi everyone, I need some honest advice.
My boyfriend recently told me he needs space. He also mentioned that I can be quite emotional and tend to chat a lot, and that sometimes he doesn’t have the energy for it.
Even after saying that, he was still checking in with me with 1–2 messages here and there. But I realize that I may have overwhelmed him a bit by continuing conversations because I was feeling anxious.
A couple of days ago, I asked him something casually, and he hasn’t replied since. It’s been 2 days now.
I’m confused about what to do:
• Part of me wants to respect his space and not message at all
• But another part of me feels guilty… what if he’s actually going through something and I’m not showing up when I should?
I don’t even want a reply from him right now. I just want to send a simple message like:
“Hope everything’s okay. Take care.”
Just to show that I care and that I’m not upset.
But I’m also worried that messaging might:
• overwhelm him again
• or make things worse
So I’m stuck between:
👉 respecting his space
👉 vs showing quiet support
What would you do in this situation?