I recently moved to a new country for work and had been working on building up my social circles here, so I have a couple of different friend groups (eg work friends, friends of friends) as well as individual friends here and there. I generally try to be open and initiate hangouts across different groups, and I see it as working towards building a sense of social belonging in this new place.
However, I recently noticed that one of the people (person A) I’ve been inviting to hangouts with my circles has been initiating hangouts with my friends, and never (3rd time now) mentions it to me, ie I always find out through my friends mention it causally after the fact.
Now I do know we are all adults (everyone’s at least past their mid 20s) and i don’t believe I’m entitled to their informing me or inviting me…. But I do feel a bit off about being left out, particularly as the hangouts person A initiates isn’t something niche that is clearly out of my interests (eg im always down for a meal or a casual hang and I would’ve loved to join those occasions).
My question is how do people here deal this when this happens (as it inevitably does with the mixing of different social groups? Some friends say that yeah they would feel weirded out if they acted as a social bridge and then get left out repeatedly. But is it immature or wrong to feel bad about that person A always fails to mention that she invited a friend of mine to hang out recently? How should I reframe my thoughts around this?