I'm 27 now but from the ages of 20-24 I had a close friendship group. We used to meet up most weekends. In the group there was a guy I've been friends with since school, a few other guys we met after school and a woman we met after school, lets call her Megan
We'd hang out as a group but also individually. I'd hang out one on one with the friend from school quite a lot and also one on one with Megan.
Then we sort of drifted apart as we got full time jobs, some moved away etc so I haven't seen a few of them for years. Megan moved quite far away a few years ago and we lost contact. I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years and last weekend we were in own and I saw Megan.
She mentioned she'd moved back to town a couple of weeks ago. I introduced her to my gf and she suggested the three of us meet up sometime for drinks and we can catch up. I said it sounds good and said I'd message later to sort out a date and time.
When we got home my gf said she wouldn't be going and that I shouldn't either. I asked why and she just said I shouldn't be drinking with another woman on my own. I pointed out I'd only be on my own because she's refusing to go and if it's that much of a problem for her she can join us. I said I wouldn't be cancelling and she can choose if she wants to join us or not.
She said I was disrespectful and that I should be listening to her but I just said I am listening with her but that doesn't mean doing what she tells me.
Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach the situation or have any other views on it?
tl;dr i habe plans to meet up with an old friend for drinks. My gilfriend is invited but is choosing not to go. She’s saying I’m being disrespectful by refusing to cancel.