I 21F have just started officially dating 22M. We have been sleeping together for around 4 months, and I have only cum around 8 times or so? I reckon we have had sex like 80 times in total, and I’ve faked orgasm for about 95% of those… the reason why is because I didn’t know if this was going to turn into anything permanent, and I just wanted to go with the flow and center his pleasure to get experience (I was a virgin before I met him).
Now however, we are obviously bf/gf and I don’t want sex to turn into a chore for me (I now really really like him). The issue is he has the impression now that it is very easy for me to cum. Don’t get me wrong, I can cum in like 5 minutes when I’m doing it myself, it’s not that hard – but he thinks that we only have to have sex for that amount of time (with a tiny bit of foreplay) for me to get there. If I’m in the mood, that can absolutely happen, but I’m wondering how I can transition out of this faking era so that he spends longer on foreplay and aftercare etc. to make sure I cum.
Also he doesn’t seem to like getting me off after he has cum – he of course does it but I think he prefers for me to cum first or for me to do it myself after we have sex. In those moments, I just feel like I should fake it to get it over and done with even if in another world I may have been able to cum with just a couple more mins of stimulation. Again, I reiterate, he does do this – but I get a bit self conscious about post nut clarity and all that.
Anyways, not sure how to transition out – don’t wanna have an awkward convo where I admit to faking (feels like I’ve been a bit of a fraud, trust issues etc.) so just want him to subtly understand that sometimes it will take longer for me to get there without knowing this is what I’ve done.
TLDR: I want to transition out of faking orgasm, so my bf spends a bit longer getting me there.